Your Silence Is Deafening: An Open Letter To the Target Boycotters


I hear you.

You’re angry.

I get it, I’m angry too.

I’m not talking to the people who are angry at Target because their Pro Transgender bathroom policy flies in the face of their cherry picked moral compass. I’m not under any obligation  to respect their beliefs. 

I’m talking to you… the people who have no issue with sharing a bathroom with LGBT people. I’m talking to those of you who are speaking out about this bathroom policy, expressing concern over the women and children who you fear will be in danger because of this policy.

You’re reasonable people. You aren’t expressing hate or bigotry. You just worry. You worry about your kids, your wives, your sisters. I worry too.

I probably worry too much. I have always accompanied my younger kids to the bathroom in public places. When my son was too old to go into the women’s room, I would stand right outside the Men’s room door. If he was taking a while I would yell through the door, asking if he was ok. So, yes, I’m that mom.

I worry. I have always been a little leery of public restrooms.

But I’m not boycotting Target and I’m no more worried about my kids’ safety than I was before.

Even though I’m a worrier, I read and I research. Facts help to calm my fears. Facts that show that in states with pro-Transgender bathroom policies, there has been no increase in assaults. Research that leads me to find an article by a Sexual Assault Victim’s Advocacy Group that is stating very clearly that pro-Trans bathroom policies do not increase the danger of sexual assault for anyone. They in fact minimize it for LGBT people.

What I see is a lot of fear mongering going around. Stories of men sneaking into the ladies room, emboldened by these laws. Stories that have proven to be false.  And some that are orchestrated to incite more fear.

So, I’m going to try to say the rest of this gently because to be honest, it’s all got me worked up and more than a little angry. It’s got a question bouncing around my head for the last few days… one that makes me angrier every time I think it…

Where have you been?

You say you are concerned for women and children. That the thought of sexual assault in a Target bathroom is so concerning that you may boycott, that you are forgoing your usual pleasant FaceBook anecdotes and memes to shout about the new policy…

Where the hell have you been?

You, the protectors of women and children. Where have you been when we’ve been writing and talking about rape?  When some of us have been shouting about these things for years, begging for people to listen, to care. To see the pain and destruction of these things that plague our society.

When we’ve been the ones to make you feel uncomfortable because we are invading your mindless FaceBooking and Tweeting with rants about injustice and startling statistics of rape that should have any sane person’s hair standing on end?

Where were your angry voices when a Presidential candidate suggested that women who don’t want to be raped shouldn’t go to parties?

When actual real life Congressmen claimed that rape victims can’t get pregnant because their body “will shut that down.”

When a court rules that oral sex is not rape if the victim is unconscious from drinking?

When a state legislator in Tennessee is ordered by the TN Attorney General to stay away from women at work because he is a danger to them?

Where were your petitions? Where was your concern? WHY AREN’T YOU SHOUTING ABOUT THESE THINGS???

Where were you when yet another woman was killed by her abusive husband? When a mother was beaten repeatedly. When the “system” that is supposed to protect her allows her violent husband to keep his gun , which he then uses to kill her and her children? Where has your concern been for the 3 women murdered every day by their intimate partner?

Where were you when your favorite college or professional sports hero was accused of rape? Or caught on video beating his wife? Are you still a fan of some of these guys? Do you still cheer them on? Where was the moral outrage to a society that looks past it because he can throw a ball and win games?

Where were you when R.Kelly was allowed to perform, put out another album, collaborate with famous pop singers? Even though he was accused of raping minors and committing cruel acts and even video taped himself doing these horrific and illegal things? Did you stand up and protest then? Did the account of a 15 year old girl’s “disembodied stare” at the video camera as he assaulted her not make you angry?

Where was your angry voice when a rapist was sentenced to 45 days for raping a 14 year old girl?

Where were you when girls were slut shamed after coming forward about their rape?

Where is your loud voice standing up for the homeless women and children? When the U.S. has largest number of homeless women and children among industrialized nations? Is the Target bathroom more of a concern than a mother and her children sleeping in their cars? Or on the street? Or bouncing around homeless shelters?

Where was your self righteous indignation when a child was killed at a park playing with a toy gun? When the police officer who shot him within seconds of arriving on the scene was let off without being charged?

Where were you when a child was shot because his radio was too loud?

Where were you when a child was killed after walking home from buying Skittles? When his murderer was acquitted and went on to make assault two different girlfriends and threaten them with his gun. That he’s still allowed to own.

Where were you when these children were killed? Because I didn’t hear any of you then. I didn’t hear a whole lot of yelling and hand wringing for these children who were mowed down by white male outrage and misguided fear.

When we speak or write or Tweet about everyday sexism and rape culture -that you damn well better believe gives rise to rape and assault- you shrugged. Or rolled your eyes. Or looked away. Or clicked “Unfollow.” Did we make you uncomfortable? All of our ranting and raving about the insidious nature of a society that views women (and hell, children too) as commodities, did it make you feel icky?

You see, I care about women and children (and boys and men) outside of the Target bathrooms. I care about them at home, at school, on the bus, at work, on the street. I care about them regardless of how they’re dressed, regardless of their economic class, no matter their sexual orientation. I care about them when they are being victimized and the world just looks on in apathy.

Those predators you’re so worried will sneak into the Target bathroom? They’re all around you.

They are your Priest, your kid’s coach, your neighbor, your uncle, your youth group leader, your United States Speaker of the House.

They are a savvy bunch, these sick bastards. They flock to places where they can gain your trust. They go to great pains to appear normal and friendly. They don’t sport a beard and a dress and waltz into the bathroom to attack your women and children.

And I can’t help but question concern that only seem to flare up when it’s anti-something. When it’s an “alternative lifestyle.” I question the motivation. I wonder, where the hell have your morals been? Where was your moral outrage when kids were gunned down and college girls were sexually assaulted and women serving in the military were being raped? When women and children were murdered by angry husbands? When restraining orders were granted but in reality offered no protection. When women were threatened online with violence. With rape. With comments like “I know where you live and I will find you and kill you.” Comments that are generated because the woman had the audacity to speak up or write or actually just do her job.

Because I haven’t heard from you about these things. I haven’t heard of petitions or moral outrage from the masses on these things. I haven’t heard much from you at all.

Until now, your silence has been deafening.

So excuse me if I find your newfound activism a little disingenuous. Excuse me if I am rolling my eyes over the furor over using a public restroom. Excuse me if I’m a little worked up over the idea that the “problem” is a Target policy but not the fact that women and children have to be careful and on guard because of a culture that has encouraged male entitlement and subversive sexism and blatant sexualization.

The “problem” you’re screaming about is not the problem. The problem is your apathy all these years to the reality that you refuse to see or acknowledge. It’s a lot easier to believe in the boogey man in the Target bathroom than the real threat that is woven into the very fabric of your Made In the USA security blanket.

Excuse me if I’m a little put off by a flurry of chicken scratched signatures on a fear mongering petition. Excuse me if I think your priorities seem a little slippery.

Because until now? Your silence has been deafening.


  1. YOU are literally now endorsing and sanctioning the legalization of and for perverts to be Out of the closet and do what they do…..view young girls and ladies doing their business privately, as opposed to keeping them separate and out of such private areas with your thesis, which is poorly if at all thought out and absurd. Shame on you. I suspect many conservative types will now ID as transgender, enter womens bathrooms and then urinate ALL Over the seat, and leave it up for women to deal with. YOU asked for it. Retard

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    1. You do know women’s restrooms have stalls right? We don’t sit around in a circle with no cover while taking a dump. So NO they are NOT spying on us while we do our private business. So get over it and quit using us to cover your own hate.

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      1. And what about those locations removing several women’s stalls to put in urinals ? I don’t even want to go in then, let alone my younger grandchildren.

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        1. OMG. Get your facts straight. Target is NOT putting urinals in womens restrooms. Please, inform me. Show me ONE SINGLE instance of that happening. You people are stupid. Get off facebook and do some research before you go spouting your ridiculousness. Your kind of stupidity is what is scaring everyone. Not a Target policy that basically everyone else follows and just doesnt have the balls to say out loud. Employees have never checked my genitals before I went into a restroom. They are not the genital police and never have been. And another thing, Target policy states that men have to go into the mens room and women go into the womens room. Its ONLY the transgender people it is mentioning. It was meant to be a statement of acceptance of the LGTB community. Not acceptance of criminals. Quit being a fear monger.

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      2. Nonsense. It has nothing to do with stalls. It has to do with mental sickness and allowing men to use womens toilets in front of girls, women and elderly ladies. It is sickness, that never would’ve been tolerated by our founders or in any nation of real men. Try that in Russia or Eastern Europe and youd be out on your head as you should be here.

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        1. i have a business that has a rest room for women only gender…if you are a man go fucking piss behind 7-11 or AM PM….SIGN ALSO SAYS TRANS GENDER WELCOME…..

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        2. He said Eastern Europe and Russia – not mainland Europe Hun. Mainland Europe is backrupt, more liberal that it can physically handle, and shockingly less acceptant of the transgender culture than many other first world countries.


        3. You’re right. I lived in Europe for a year and in Greece I found public restrooms where the men’s urinals were on the outside of the building (in the public) and the inside was stalls open to anyone. Just close the door behind you.


        4. I just returned from London and Paris. Not only did I have to pay to use the group restroom, there were male cleaning people in there. So, no, European women’s rooms are not ‘male free’.

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        5. Thank you. for fucks sake. people need to get over this stupid ass shit. How blindingly stupid do you have to be to make anyone using any bathroom anywhere THE thing you’re up in arms about. ffs


        6. Also? Using Russia as a place to try and be like? Right now? With the political situation they’re suffering from? Holy dumbfuck, Batman.


        7. So how would u know if it was a woman or a man. Shit half of these transgender women look better than a natural born.


      1. I feel sorry for this country. Our enemies laugh at us. Putin laughs at us. You mentally deficient metrosexual and overly feminine types can go back to feeding your cats wondering what in the hell happened to this once great country. In a word: J EWs

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        1. It’s actually really rare for someone to openly admit they are a nazi. So I respect bharford’s candor. bharford, I’d politely suggest you look into making a new home in one of the totalitarian countries (with “real men”) you mentioned. America is obviously not a good fit! Sorry!

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    2. To bharford, If there were anything in your comment that might have been justified, (which there was not) your last word just proved the ignorance you in-habit. We can only feel pity for such human beings as yourself. I will pray for you. God forgives the ignorant.

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      1. You mention the word ignorant but you are so tainted with Kosher ‘tolerance’ which is literally approving and sanctioning the unthinkable, mental sickness and degeneracy, and facilitating to rationalize the irrational. There are only 2 genders: Male and Female. Bathrooms for those with
        1. Penis
        2. Vagina
        There is no inbetween or compromise.
        Until 1973 and for thousands of years, homosexuality was a punishable crime and deemed mental illness. Suddenly with J EWs controlling the judiciary, they sanctioned the harvesting and killing of the unborn to sell baby parts of Lamborghinis, and allowed for Gay marriage to become legal. Now 75,000 children are subjected to the worst kind of abuses from gay couples, their sick baby sitters and house sitters. You stand for nothing, youll fall for anything.
        Pedophiles should be quickly tried, then either castrated or deported to an island if not given capital punishment.
        Mental sickos that don’t know what gender they are, should be in mental facilities…

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        1. You are indeed ignorant if you are claiming that there are only two genders.

          There are people born who are both male and female. It’s called hermaphroditism or intersex. Look it up.

          The world is not black and white. There are a lot of gray areas.

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        2. Hermaphrodites are a rare occasion. Transgenders are populous to the thousands. They are not any exception, but a mentally ill group of people who actually think they were born into the wrong body. Do not confuse the two, or dare to compare the two.


        3. The idea of homosexuals being pedophiles is an undocumented myth. There is more evidence even within the past week that supports that heterosexual white males in authority positions are most likely to commit pedophilia. I’m more afraid of sending my sons into a men’s restroom than a women’s. As for the mental sickness of homosexuals and LGBTQ, there’s no research that proves one way or the other. However, there is research that shows people with extreme hatred toward a specific group of people (like jews or homosexuals for example) usually suffer from a mental disorder. I’d recommend speaking with someone about your hatred instead of venting on message boards. It’s not healthy.


        4. EVERY same sex Pedophile is a homosexual. Every single one…The rest of your post is trash and rationalizing the irrational. F*ck you and your new world order


        5. Where would we be without J EWs? Who would’ve Killed Christ? Birthed Communism, Usury, Feminism, Gay marriage, Transgender freaks, Abortion, Media Degeneracy, Porn or running a Concentration Camp in Gaza


        6. You do realize Jesus was a Jew and it is through the Jews that God promised salvation as His chosen people. And the Bible was written by Jews. So unless you’re an Atheist you kinda need to take a step back. As for the rest of it, there is no credible historical facts for anything you’ve said.


        7. Jesus was Not a j ew. That word didn’t exist until the 18th century second edition King James bible. He was an Israelite, a Judahite. Those living in Israel today are Khazars, 8th century converts, former phalluc worshippers with No tie to the Holy Land. Does Woody Allen look Semitic or Arabic to you? Nice try Moran


        8. Anyone reading this will see that if you can’t spell the word “moron” right I’m not the less intelligent here. I enjoy the debate, but am willing to walk away at this point since I don’t believe either of us will gain anything from it. I wish you the best and hope that you find peace and joy in your life, that you live with grace and love towards others as Jesus did, and that you find acceptance with whatever group you identify with.


        9. I spelled Moran intentionally.
          You’ve not spent much time doing any introspection of your own stupidity.

          JESUS WAS NOT A Jew

          by Jason Collett

          Many denominational Christians and even church leaders are under the mistaken belief that Jesus was a Jew. But nothing could be further from the truth.

          Judea and Galilee were two separate states and political entities, as illustrated on the map of Palestine in the time of our Saviour in your Bible. Jesus Himself was not a Jew (Judean) or resident of Judea, He was a Galilean or resident of Galilee (Matthew 26:69; John 7:41), and a Judahite or descendent of the Tribe of Judah. The Judeans of prominence were not of the Tribe of Judah, but of Edomites. Pilate was being ironic when he wrote the sign “Jesus of Nazareth, King of the Judeans” for the Cross (John 19:19). That is, “the Galilean who was King of the Judeans,” as in “Queen Victoria of England, Empress of India.” Jesus grew up in Nazareth in Galilee. His disciples were fishermen from the Sea of Galilee. And although He visited Jerusalem, he spent most of His life in his home country of Galilee. John 7:1, “After this Jesus stayed in Galilee; for He could not walk in Judea, because the Jews sought to kill him.” His followers were constrained “for fear of the Jews” (John 7:13, 19:38, 20:19).

          Why was this?

          Psalm 83:3 says God’s elect are “hidden” or protected ones, and that they are under attack from a coalition of evil groups led by Edom. Who was Edom?

          Esau, the brother of the patriarch Jacob, became the ancestor of the people called Edom, or Idumea. The Antiquities of the Jews by Flavius Josephus, XIII ix 1; XV vii 9 instructs us: John Hyrcanus forcibly assimilated the Edomites as a national group and they became “Jews” in about 120BC. The Jewish historian Josephus, who lived just after the time of Christ, wrote, “They [Edom] were hereafter no other than Jews’. The Jewish scholar Cecil Roth in his Concise Jewish Encyclopedia (1980) says on page 154, “John Hyrcanus forcibly converted [Edom] to Judaism. From then on they were part of the Jewish people. In the Talmud the name of Edom was applied to Christian Rome, and was then used for Christianity in general”.

          Terrible judgements against Edom are made in most of the prophecies of the Old Testament. For instance, Isaiah 34, 63, Jeremiah 49, and the entire book of Obadiah.

          Isaiah 63:1-6, “Who is this coming from Edom . . . in garments stained with crimson? It is I [the Lord] who speak in righteousness and am mighty to save.”

          “Why are your garments red, as if you had trodden the winepress?”

          “I have trodden the winepress alone: and of the people there was none to help Me. In My anger I trod them down, trampled them in My wrath. Their blood splattered My garments, and all My clothes are stained. For the day of vengeance is in My heart, and the year of My redeemed has come. . . I will tread down the people in My anger, and bring their blood upon the ground”.

          These verses refer to Revelations chapter 19:11-21, when the Word of God destroys His enemies: “And I saw heaven opened, and behold a white horse: and He that sat upon him was called Faithful and True. . . His eyes were as a flame of fire, and on His head were many crowns, and He had a Name written that no man knew but Himself. And He was clothed with a vesture dipped in blood, and His Name is called The Word of God. . . and He trod the winepress of God’s fierce anger”.

          Jehovah of the Old Testament “hated Esau (Edom), against whom He has indignation forever” (Malachi 1:2-4). If Jesus will destroy Edom when He returns, then Edom is present today, and obviously evil, anti-Christian, and anti-Semitic.

          The Edomite, Antipater, became the Procurator of Judea in 47BC. Ten years later his son Herod actually became “king of the Jews,” initiating the Edomite dynasty which ruled Palestine under Roman authority for over a hundred years. The Edomite assimilation opened the way for the virtual takeover along the lines predicted by Ezekiel and stimulus for an influx of population from the arid country of Edom into the more hospitable environment of Judea, an influx obviously encouraged for political reasons by the ruling Herodian dynasty. Edomites would have been appointed to the most influential positions, in order to extend and consolidate Edomite authority over the land and its people. Herod became notorious for his massacre of infant boys two years old and undger,” a supernaturally inspired attempt on the life of Christ (Matthew 2:16). Herod’s son Herod Antipas, continuing the work, and was responsible for the gruesome murder of John the Baptist (Matthew 14:6-12).

          Christ demonstrated a very real antipathy towards the people called Jews, in Bibles published after about 1776, but who would be more accurately described as Judeans, or residents of the Edomite-dominated territory of Judea. Jesus said to the Jews “You do not believe because you are not of My sheep” (John 10:24-27). “I was only sent to the lost sheep of the House of Israel” (Matthew 15:24). In fact, Christ referred to “those Jews (or residents of Judea regardless of religion, race or color) who believed on him,” as “of their father the devil” for although they were children of Abraham, they were not children of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, and heirs of the blessing of Abraham, nor did they have the faith of Abraham, and were in all probability descendants of Abraham, Isaac and Esau (John 8: 31,44). In contrast, Jesus instructed His disciples – who were from Galilee of the Gentiles, not Judea (Acts 1:11; 2:7) – to pray to And in Revelation 2:9 and 3:9, Jesus speaks of “those who say they are Jews and are not, but are the synagogue of Satan”.

          The Jews shouted “Crucify Him!” (John 19:15); “His blood be on us and on our children” (Matthew 27:25). In an appropriate turn about, when Jesus returns, their blood will stain His own garments. The spiritual leaders of the Jews were the Pharisees, who not surprisingly were associated with the (Edomite) Herodians (Matthew 22:15-16; Mark 3:6; 12:13). Jesus repeatedly condemned the Pharisees as “hypocrites” (Matthew 15:7; 22:18; 23:13,15,23,25,27-27). He also called them “serpents, the offspring of vipers” (Matthew 3:7; 12:34; 23:33).

          “Jesus spoke to the crowds only in parables” (Matthew 13:10-17). Why was this? Many nominal churches and Sunday schools teach that Jesus used parables to make His teachings clearer. But all four Gospels say the opposite. When Jesus was asked why He spoke to them in parables, He replied “Because it is given to you to know the mysteries of the kingdom of heaven, but to them it is not given” (Matthew 13:10-11; Mark 4:11-12; Luke 8:9-10; John 12:37-44). Brother Branham simply said, Jesus spoke in parables to thin down the crowds.

          Jesus told “those Jews who believed in Him . . . You are of your father the devil, and lust for what is forbidden. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him . . . as he is a liar and the father of lies” (John 8:31-44). This characteristic is confirmed by the dictionary definition of the verb jew .”


        10. I’m genuinely curious, so please don’t take offense. Why do you believe this? What do you hope to accomplish and how does it help you spread the gospel? From your comments I believe you’re a Christian and I’d like to understand more about what you believe and why you believe it. Thank you.


      2. I’m not confused about what sex I am. I know what sort of genitalia I was born with. This is not rocket science.
        It is a J EW Hell hole they are creating for us all, and women try to ‘feel’ their way through all of this irrational degeneracy, after reading about Kaitlyn Jenner in People or US Magazine…. stupid sheep

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        1. I was the victim of a pedophile (my white biological father), and I now attend a church that is open and affirming of all people, including those who are LGBT. I have a daughter and worry much more about straight white males (highly represented in the pedophile group) than I do about people just because they happen to be gay or transgender. Take a look at your statistics. True pedophiles will seek opportunity without legislation…and most aren’t those you categorize so easily as child predators.


      3. Perhaps he does. By you fall into that category for thinking transgenderism is anything but the mental disorder doctors have rightfully labeled it. Shame on you for your ignorance.


    3. Bharford you are spot on. What many people (especially commenting on this thread) don’t seem to realize is that we are not all “afraid” of transgenders molesting anyone in the bathroom. Certainly that is a possibility, but not the major argument at all. The argument is to the stance of what point we as a society say that something is inherently wrong and will not stand for it. If we keep allowing every sick and sadistic group that comes along to do whatever they please without any repercussion then we will find ourselves in a society of chaos where anyone can get away with anything as long as they say they “felt like” doing it.

      If a man can have multiple surgeries performed and actually cut off his genitalia out of pure desire to be a woman – that is sick. Multiple instances have show this to be a mental disorder (have at it with Google I won’t lengthen this even more with a thousand articles). Cutting off your genitalia doesn’t make you a woman. If you were born with male DNA you are a man for the rest of your life no matter what you do to your body. You can be a man without genitalia, who likes women’s clothing, who enjoys other feminine things – but you are a man nonetheless.

      The day we promote this sick behavior as anything other than what it is ( a mental disorder), then we have failed as a society. And shame on target for promoting such behavior.


      1. You actually just told a guy who is claiming the Jews are terrible as being “spot on”? Wow, Christians have really taken this all to an entirely new, non-remorseful direction. It’s vile.


    4. You are horrid. Not only do your views disgust and anger me, but using “retard” as a hurtful name for someone? That’s disgusting. If I believed in hell, you’d be there.


      1. PS my comment was not in response to the article. The article is well put and researched and I agree wholeheartedly. My comment was in response to bharford. I even feel a little shameful for saying that someone is likely in hell, but when I reread that person’s response… nope – I’m right back there. Disgusting.

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    5. U do know that becoming trans is a process, right? U think a man will risk getting threatened, beat, stared at, etc., JUST to see a peak at u sitting ojna toilet thru a small crack in the door?

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      1. Process Schmocess…..If you have a penis, you use the mens bathroom. If you were born with a vagina, use the womens. This isn’t hard. F*ck you and your new world order.


    6. it’s a bathroom. Get over yourself. Find something better to do with your life than spreading hate. i feel so sorry for people like you. You are a miserable person.

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      1. Indeed, its just a bathroom, USE the appropriate facility based on ones genital equiptment. YOU call it hate, because YOU hate the truth. Your Marxist agenda will not work.


      2. May
        Woman Chases Sex Offender Trying to Film Her at Target
        By: AltMediaDaily

        When a convicted voyeur approached Candace Spivey in Target talking up some story about shopping for a dress for his wife, Spivey recognized the man and the exact story he was telling; he had apparently already tried this tactic on her a couple years earlier at another store.

        The man, identified by police as Jeffrey Polizzi, had been convicted in 2009 for “taking photographs of women in dressing rooms” (something that will be a lot easier for people like him to do at Target now, what with the store’s wonderful new “inclusive” restroom policy that allows men to use the women’s restrooms and changing rooms).


  2. Funny, it doesn’t appear to matter which side a person falls on, the name calling and inflammatory remarks fly. Calling someone an old white conservative bigot is just as bad as any of the other discriminatory remarks you can dream up. Just because it’s popular to bash conservatives or white people right now, doesn’t make it any different. Turns out discrimination is pretty easy to do, doesn’t it? Turns out that people are just mean and don’t care about the feelings/concerns/lives of people who don’t fit in their tribe.

    Taking up for a cause doesn’t excuse slurring an individual or group of individuals because they are perceived as the “bad guy”.

    Yes, I am white, yes I am over 30, yes I have children and a wife. AND YES, I have always been outspoken about rape, domestic violence, sexual assault, discrimination of any sort. Here’s the kicker: I also consider myself conservative. So take the name calling out of it and try to have an intelligent, respectful dialogue about it. Or shut up deal with the cards you’re dealt.

    Civilization means that the we have a set of rules that we all follow in the public sphere. I believe that transgendered individuals have long been using the restroom of their choice. I’m not even sure how homo- or bi-sexuality got drug into this. Are gay men trying use the ladies room? Are gay women trying to use the men’s room? I have know three transgendered people, and only one of them was homosexual, the one born female. So how does it fit when a person born male that has a preference for intercourse with females and is also transgendered wants to use the ladies room? Wouldn’t it make more sense to push for single occupant only restrooms? And remove the gender/sex issue altogether? It didn’t become an issue until someone made it an issue attempting to get validation. Bad news guys, we are never going to agree on everything.

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    1. I LOVE that you actually encouraged people to have a respectful dialogue and in the exact same breath, told them to shut up and deal with the cards they’ve been dealt. It’s like you Christians aren’t quite real and are characters from the Onion.

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  3. Hate to break it to all of you but some pedophiles only target boys. Some of these sick people are in thw mens reatrooms with your husbands and sons. Yet none of you seem to worry until they want to let thwm into the women’s restroomas

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    1. “None of us seem to worry…” seriously!!?? Do you have any sons? If you did you wouldn’t make such an ignorant statement. I have 2 and absolutely worry about them! That doesn’t change the issue – men do not belong in a women’s public restroom and vice versa. Is common sense dead?

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  4. Shameful ‘open letter’; it is filled with anger and judgement. I’m one of those horrid people you wrote about – you know, the ones that don’t want to share a bathroom with a member of the opposite sex – ridiculous, I know, how could I be so selfish – ha! Problem is your rant doesn’t hold up. You accuse folks like me as ignorant and apathetic to our homeless children and victimized women – WRONG – I have actually donated my time, love and attention to women and children’s shelters and group homes and I have worked fundraisers that not only brought in money but also attention to their situations. I don’t just ‘write’ about it, I actually do stuff, contrary to what you write. But, you ARE a blogger and the number of ‘shares’, ‘likes’, followers, Tweets and attention YOU get is probably fairly important to you and sensationalist rants get attention! Obviously or I wouldn’t have wasted my time reacting. So, you can take that judgmental finger you are pointing and turn it 180 degrees. Next time, maybe post a pic of you at a women’s crisis shelter instead of Target if you really want to make a point, but Target appreciates the free press.

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    1. Then please tell me why you don’t want to share the woman’s restroom with someone that looks like a women and has a vagina (despite the XY chromosomes). I understand that you may be sensitive to homelessness but we were talking about transgendered rights. What reason do you have that is more important that the fact that fifty percent of transgendered people attempt or commit suicide (Trevor’s Project website)? I cannot see why someone of your obvious capacity for sympathizing with people cannot empathize with this obviously marginalized demographic and give them the humanizing experience of choosing to use the bathroom of the gender they identify with.


  5. Excellent post. One of the best I’ve read recently. I’m working on a post against a bathroom bill that’s going to be proposed in my state, and a lot of what you said resonated with me. I might even use the articles you linked to in my post. Thanks for writing this post and being a voice of reason when so many people seem to be abandoning reason in favor of fear or hate or what they think is good for them.

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  6. So all this debate is about……restrooms. WOW. RESTROOMS are just places where you take a shit and go about your day, THEY ARE NOT a Chicago guetto bunch of worrywarts. The author is paranoid in general, and so are the rest of the people thinking restrooms are “DANGEROUS” places, whether queers/he-she’s are allowed in them or not.

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      1. Yikes … nice generalization there, drinsf! The bathroom situation has nothing to do with Christian beliefs or moral values. Beside that, it has nothing to do with LGBT beliefs or moral values, either. It is a stunt to keep people fighting. How do I know this? There have been LGBT members since forever ago, and they didn’t just start having to relieve themselves of bodily waste only recently. But I guess if you are a non-Christian, you blame us for everything. Even though, nowhere in the Bible does it say, thou shall not use bathrooms if you are mentally confused about your genetic and biological makeup. LGBT people have been using public restrooms for ages. Now there is suddenly a problem? There needs to be a law over it? Here’s a law for everyone. Ban perverts from public restrooms, altogether. Oh wait. They are. Perverts are banned from ever assaulting anyone. They still do it, because (drum roll please) THEY ARE EVIL. Or at the very least, mentally ill. Here’s a better idea, let’s screw with the laws that are already reasonable to introduce some invisible threat that will keep LGBT and CIS-STRAIGHT OR WHATEVER NORMAL PEOPLE ARE CALLED NOW ANGRY … AND KEEP THEM FIGHTING!!! Makes sense.

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  7. Gays and Lesabians and the ones that want to be another sex need God and needs to be saved so they can change their sinful ways and make it to heaven,God can fix you and change the way you feel .l will and have been praying for all of you!Please ask God for forgiveness so we all can see one another in Heaven.

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  8. I disagree with the idea of making all bathrooms “gender neutral”. No, I’m not afraid of the transgenders that might go in there. I’m more afraid of the perverts and pedophiles that claim to be transgender just so they can get into the bathrooms. I realize that if a pervert wants to commit a crime that ,no, this may not stop him completely. But at least what it does do is to put one more obstacle in their way. Pretty much the same as locking your front door. It may not stop a robbery by itself,but, it will put one more obstacle in the bad guys way. Why can’t we just compromise a little bit? Target should keep separate facilities for men and women, but also have a single occupancy unisex bathroom option for the trans community and for those who like using the bathroom alone. Seriously. What’s wrong with that idea? It seems that it would satisfy everyone on both sides of the issue.

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  9. This is so spot on. After talking about being catcalled, I was told that it was a minor situation and I don’t know true fear. Those same people are now claiming to care about my safety in public restrooms. The only consistency these protesters need is to be cruel and to belittle (even if it contradicts their previous protests.)
    This post is incredible. Great job!

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  10. This is an awesome blog post because it highlights the political nature of a lot of these issues and how the wolves in sheep clothing manipulate and turn neighbors against each other.

    Real Christians care about the prisoners who are cast aside by society to become more and more agents of darkness.

    Real Christians care about the starving and the naked.

    Real Christians care about the stranger!

    Those are all things by the way that God identified himself as.

    And when it comes to anyone in the LGBT community or others we don’t view people as Predators or Evil-Does. Our response should be of helping where we can and trying to be spiritual friends in a discussion that revolves around peace and meaning.

    There were only two commands Christ gave us…

    You can view those sexual identities as outside the fold of the idealic order but the rhetoric and bigotry/prejudice and misrepresentation of the reality isn’t the truth and it’s a sin to lie and mislead people and mischaracterize realities because you don’t want to get into deeper and more complex discussions/investigations.

    Thanks for a wonderful post.

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  11. in the end … what shows love? In the end…what is kind? In the end … shouldn’t we ALWAYS have cared for our children’s safety whether it’s in a public bathroom or at school or at a family member’s home? Why is it now that we care? Hate.

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  12. This is possibly the best freaking post levelling a field that I’ve ever seen.
    Seriously, I’ve seen loads for and against, but nothing that ever cleaned something up so clearly.
    Ever though about running for government or something cause I think the world needs more people like this in it.

    We have too much bias in the media now, worldwide.
    This trans situation hits home quite a bit for me, due to a family member going through it currently.

    Keep going miss, you speak more sense then anyone on TV.

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  13. Well that’s what we call a dragon spitting fire of mass destructive and opiniated words, am not an American chickas, but for sure am a citizen of the world, all eyes are on the US, for as much as I know the USA are being followed and taken for example in many countries by many people. As a mother I care a lot for the security of my children but am a bit sceptical on this matter, there is too many mix feelings and not enough of the people that are really concerned about that particular matter expressing themselves here.

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  14. Reblogged this on Life is for Living and commented:
    I don’t live in the USA but I have been following this story and believe there are some valid points being raised in this post. I wouldn’t say however that people have been totally silent in important issues … maybe just not as vocal as they probably could have been, especially when viewed against this particular backdrop. What do you think? Don’t let your silence be deafening. Leave a comment and continue the conversation.

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  15. The. Whole world should change because of a few people . Hey america can you cater to my needs also?? Any of you that don’t like it are full of hate. Haha Just to sit back and watch these people in this country is unbelievable. I hope we don’t get into a war BC we sure as heck don’t stand up for what we believe in.


  16. Every issue and movement has a watershed moment. All of the incidents that you discussed were not national news, we’re not talked about in my region and are not something I search outt. This was the street, enough is enough. The pc mentality has gone too far and people are sick of it. So this isn’t about whether the boycotted would be outraged at the events in this article it’s about the end of the line. Finally a stand must be taken, I am taking that stand with my dollars.

    Based on 2010 census estimates there are approximately 24k Trans people in America and as of 2016 804k registered sex offenders. The risk exists whether you want to admit it or not. All of this hoopla over 24k people in this country. When does the pc, make everyone happy mentality end.

    And so there is no confusion for the trolls and uneducated people out there. The incidents in this article are horrifying and deserve as much or more support as is being given to the target boycott.

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  17. Why are you ASSUMING I wasn’t standing up for these injustices? This is just one situation that is in my control to do something. Writing letters to district attorneys and signing petitions has been my practice so the attitude you have is wrong towards boycotting Target. Proactive is something I can do daily when I need to shop. Don’t assume anything! Did YOU do anything for the situations you mentioned?


  18. Wow. Regardless of where you stand on an issue, what a poignant question. Where were you when countless women and men were crying out against rape and assault? When there are people who are AFRAID of their partner, sometimes even terrified to run (75% of domestic violence related deaths occur while the abused is trying to leave)? Where was the concern then?


  19. “I’m not under any obligation to respect their beliefs” Exactly! That is why so many people who do not agree with Target’s position are exercising their rights to shop where ever they choose. This is an issue that would have never crossed my mind until it was in my face via the media. I do not look under the stalls to see which way the shoes are pointed! I believe everyone has the right to make decisions about the path they take in life. I have the right to my beliefs. I am not a homophobe or hater of individuals because of their choices. Stop hating me because I choose to live my life as God intended. Oh No! There it is . . . “God” I could care less about your comments on this . . . . once God is introduced in my thoughts, there will be more haters towards me and my beliefs. Remember . . . I’m not under any obligation to respect your beliefs either. What are you so afraid of? Probably the same things I fear as a Christian . . . . accountability for my actions. Life is not easy, no matter what path you choose.


  20. This is why the MAJORITY of Americans will be voting for Trump. He is NOT politically correct. We are sick to death of political correctness. We will most likely have a person as the President of the United States for the next for 4 years mainly because he is not a politician and does not give a care about who he offends. It’s right down scary to think all this PC crap may be the reason we have a POTUS who is Donald Trump.


  21. Oh wow. You can’t hear this, but I’m stamping my feet and cheering for you. Loudly. And then I’m gonna go post this to my social media accounts, ’cause I think everyone should read it.

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  22. If I’m not mistaken, you used the “pro transgender bathroom” a start off parable almost stating the fact that they aren’t the problem, a person has equal chance of getting abused in either bathroom, but making the point of many other atrocities that occur in the nation (and throughout the world actually), that people “sit back and watch” rather than doing anything about.
    Like the gun issue, a little bg check is by far virtually nothing (as far as control)
    the rape thing, etc.
    As one who does boycott such isues, probably not in the same way, you did bring some good points across I have to say.


  23. If I don’t want to purchase products from a store who has clearly made a statement that is not in agreement with who I am as a person then that is my choice. where were you when the blood of my ancestors paid dearly for my freedom??

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  24. I see both sides of the point. I see the concern over the PC BS which I’m sick of and I understand the validity of the argument that otherwise with so many other issues no one’s said a word or done much about it.

    I remember a time when if a little boy or girl wanted to buy a boy or girl toy you just bought it. You didn’t need a special aisle or a ungendered aisle you just buy the shit you want end of story. There are some things that as a parent I’ll be honest when I say I don’t want to explain to my barely 5 year old. In due time, yes we can address issues like this when she can both understand and if it opens a flood gate of other questions shes more capable of understanding.

    For now, I like to keep it G and tell her things like accept everyone even if they don’t look like you, everyone is different and beautiful. Don’t stare at people if they have something different that’s not nice because their a person just like you. I like it that way because after all she’s only 5.

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    1. I don’t want to convince you to change the way you’re raising your child – quite the opposite in fact – but if you’re sick of acceptance, fairness, decency, and understanding of both people and facts about human psychology (or “PC BS” as you put it) why are you raising your child to accept it?


      1. My direct issue is with the fact that everyone’s offended. Offended by coffee cups, bathrooms etc. I understand the term reasonable accommodations but it gets to a point where it’s ridiculous. In not teaching my daughter to be an asshole hence why I do teach her to love and respect others of their differences. Again the issue is with the constant crutch needing. Can’t call a holiday show a holiday or a Christmas show because I’m offended, call it winter display. That’s not ridiculous? I think it is. How have we been managing before we could whine and cry about Christmas and its offenses is beyond me.

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  25. Thank you so much for sharing, I couldn’t of said it better. I pray that your voice and this article reaches us all loving and concern parents to stand and support. Regaining a piece of sanity to those that have lost it. I thank you for sharing, for being such strong, involved mother and concern. You do not worry to much, is love for your kids that drive you. There should be more woman like you.

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